I finally told everyone I'm genderqueer. The "singular they" argument.

I told my family and friend I'm gq, and everyone was ok with that. What a few had a problem with was singular they. I actually prefer humanist, personist, and both forms of Spivack but "they" is easier as it's something we already know. This genderqueer thing is complex to some enough as it is, so I figuered I would make some of it easier and ask that people just refer to my as "they". In the arguments I got "It makes you sound skectophirnic". One arguement stopped when I pulled out the "There's 20 other neutral pronouns if you want to use those. I warn you that they are harde,as they are not in navie english tounge". One argument continued suggesting that i make a new pronoun set, giving my reason for using "they". I replied that I like the pronouns in use now, so they're no need to make any special requests.

There's an understanding that calling a person "it" in insulting, but to me it isn't. I don't care if someone calls me it - and I say this having been called an it before. The understanding is that calling a person an "it" is disrespectful for it's dehumanizing. I understand that, and yet, I'm still not bothered by it. Firstly, I've been called much worse than "it" - my skin has hardernd. Secondly, gender neutral proouns (that would be considered grammartically correct) aren't a normal thing in our english language. We normally don't go any farther than "she", "he", and "it". "It" is the only gender neutral pronoun that's tough in school, so it's the only one we grow up with. In other countries, an equalizlinte of our "it" is used as a neutral pronoun that not offending. If someone can't idenifty me, and "it" comes from the confusion I'm not going to get in a huff about the matter.