Showing posts with label sexism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexism. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Now I know that I'm actually sexist.

What brought me to this:

In June, I started volunteering at a center. One of the other volunteers contacted me from the staff list with person intent. They didn't have my knowledge and certainly not my permission in doing so. They started off with coming to live with them, an hour away from where I currently am. After I turned that down, they offered for my to attend a fest with them in a different town an hour away. The kept inviting me to stuff, and I was very standoffish about it. I saw the kindness in their actions, but someone suddenly contacting me and inviting to to places an hour away from where I live to place where I don't know anyone is strange.

Recently, has person has admitted they became frustrated with my coy behavior so I forced myself to finally tell them the truth. Like I said, I saw the kindness, but it was too much too soon, and it spookied me. Unfortunately, they didn't want to accept this and kicked me out of their life as much as they could without me actually being in it, in the first place.

How this links to sexism:

This person has a vagina. Even though I'm well aware that people with a vagina are just as evil as people with a penis, I still treated that person much kinder than I would have if it had been someone with a penis. If they had a penis, I would have bluntly cut them off without thinking about it. Something along the lines of: "No one has permission to contact me without relation to the center. That's a very creepy and disrespectful thing to do. Cease and desist." And, I still would have told our supervisor after handling it myself.

But no. I was dealing with a vagina wielder, so I kept it going, hoping they would get the hint that I didn't want to be close to them, but I was ok with talking to them casually. By that I mean online, as we live an hour apart. They took all of this into their own hands - I didn't ask for any of this. They had no respect for me in the action of contacting me from the staff list without my permission. They also don't under that what they did was wrong. I'm not assuming that - they actually said they did nothing wrong when I confronted them about how I felt. I would have forwarded the emails to our supervisor at that point - it if were someone with a penis.

Resolve:

I know the universe was telling me this, for it put someone from the past in my line of vision. A person with a penis for whom I was very blunt and direct with, before. They exited my life with their own disgrace and I have no interest in letting them back in. That is how I should also treat this person.
I am thankful that the universe pointed out my sexist ways. Regardless of gentials, body stature and all - all people are hurt hurtful beings. I will be blunt and direct with all of them equally.

Saturday, January 28, 2012

I think I found the root of sexism towards women (in culture)!

I want to say this is the root of cultural sexism. this is just my opinion. I'm not claiming any facts, or something everyone thinks the same thing.


It's in child birth! You know how men glorifying pain, and self satisfaction? Well, the continuation of humanity depends on a man's pleasure and a woman's pain. The man gets to ejaculate into the woman, and weither or not she had a good time she still has to suffer the pain of birthing a child.
You would think it would be the other way around. Men would be more understand and appreciative of a woman, because at some point alot of them will have a baby (or babies). but, that's only looking at it from one angle. The sexism comes in at "We both did the same thing, but you're the one that gets the torment!" With the way men are, that's like a major high five for them, and prison to the females. Something he had a good time doing ruined you : Biggest ego bust EVER! You both did the same act, and he got all the joy out if, while you have to "suffer the consequences" of continuing humanity. It wouldn't be so bad if child birth didn't hurt as much. It's the idea of being "superior" to not being able to naturally do something that causes so much pain.
Women are viewed as the things that make the babies, that grow into more people. Depending on the men in the culture, this is what happens to the baby makers. Women are the most powerful things in the planet is it is their duty to continue our existence by having to endure horrific pain. Putting negative social pressure into her natural order, is what degrades her about what we depend on her for. Make her think that's all she's for, and is not meant to enjoy the other expressions of life before bearing the pain responsibility of a new life. Degrade her more if she can't handle the responsibility and must give it to someone else that can.
As for the women that don't want to suffer the pains she losses status as a women, because "women are for making babies". She is harshly degraded, and put aside as unimportant to humanity. For women that can't fill their natural "reproductive objective," she is pitied, but there is still a "do as you will with her, for she can't get pregnant" to it. Never mind her take on her own situation, and weither or not she wants to have children, in the first place.
There is shame put to a women's body, in general, in alot of cultures. In America, a women's body and sexuality are a marketed subject. A women deemed attractive by our culture is displayed getting with a men that usually lacks psychical attractive standards that would match her's. This sends the message that "If this very attractive women will get with the average looking guy ANY women will get with you!" You'll have women getting naked on tv, but shame a sexual liberated women in real life.

When a women does or says things in the same context men do, and suffer punishment unlike the men that did the same thing or something similar is when it's clear. My best example is shirtless-ness. A men takes off his shirt, and it's acceptable. A women takes off her shirt, and she's being "indecent"? What is indecent about her chest, that is "decent" about his? In or out of sexual context. There are times and places for things, but it seems like there's less time and places for women to be as open as men about certain subjects.
I can't forget how "different" and "inferior/ superior" are interchangeable. Women are different from men, but because they're psychically weaker, and presumed emotionally unstable because they're more emotionally sensitive than men they're "inferior". Despite the fact that they're starter, as when someone lacks qualities their other qualities are advanced.
I said all that to say: "Women are so important, it's better for the male ego to degrade her for the very thing she's important for!"
There are only a few small cultures that have an understanding, and praise for women for what most of them do that some point in their lives. This is a problem in dire need of change.

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These deductions are based on what I've seen and experienced. I'm not saying everyone is treated or acts like any of these things.
There are individual reasons for being sexist, too.